God granted us authority and power when we came out of the womb. We are His children, and He gave us the resources and the keys to open things in our life. There are things that will take the life and light out of us, and sometimes it’s hard for us to crawl out of that dark space. One day we have the power, and the next we feel like the problem or whatever it may be, has the power over us. I’m here to tell you today that that is not true, we will always have the victory because of who we belong to.  

Rejection is something we aren’t too fond of, ForevaBlack family. None of us like being told “no”—and trust me, I completely understand. Rejection stings, but when God says “no,” it’s not to harm us—it’s to protect us and redirect us. In the moment, we might be upset because we didn’t get what we wanted, but down the line God reveals why that door had to close. Often, the very thing God rejected was something that would have hurt us, and because He loves us, He shields us from it. 

Every space doesn’t need to be filled. While me and my mom were cleaning our downstairs closet today, I thought to myself I wanted to squeeze in one more thing but instantly the Holy Spirit said to me "Niya, every space doesn't need to be filled." It stuck with me, so I proceed to ask what does that mean? In the physical, we were just cleaning up and obviously leaving room for space, but there I was trying to declutter and still wanting to fill the space AGAIN. Spiritually, God is doing the same thing in us, but we’re always trying to put our hands on it and drag something back in.  And the Holy Spirit let me know that when he gives us space in our life; whether that's space for love, space for Relationship with Him, space for healing, clarity, and even preparation.  

ForevaBlack family, I hope life has been treating you all well... and even if you feel like it hasn’t, remember a bad day does not equal a bad life. A bad day is just for a moment, it’s never permanent. Life will always have its ups and downs, but we’re not supposed to let it beat us down. When life throws complications and mishaps our way, we tend to get discouraged and say our life is bad but in reality, that’s not true.  

Being the strong friend doesn’t mean you have to carry everything alone, or to carry anything at all. Sometimes when we hold onto the mindset of being “strong” all the time, we neglect our mental, emotional, and spiritual needs. We’re carrying our problems, and people also lean onto us for theirs... which it is nothing wrong with being a shoulder to cry on, but sometimes it’s like “dang, do people not think I have things weighing me down either?”  

Happy Thursday my beautiful ForevaBlack family. Healing is something that is available to us all, and honestly something that we all need. Our healing is completely on us, it is our job to make sure we do the work in order to heal and to move forward. There are some things that people get confused when it comes down to healing; the biggest thing we as a collective get confused about is that our healing doesn’t mean we will have closure. Let me explain... most of the time, we’re healing from trauma that others put on us, the pain they caused us, and how they drained us of so much love. But do you know the majority of those people will NEVER say sorry, but guess what? The responsibility is still on YOU to heal. 

ForevaBlack family, have you ever desired more? Have you ever felt in your spirit that it’s time to receive, and that God has more for you? Sometimes we can feel when it’s time to remove some things and make room for the things God has promised us. Spiritually, we can be hoarders; we cling on to so many things God has asked us to release. Mentally, our minds can be overpowered by limited beliefs, cycles that no longer serve us, and anxiety... and those things can’t go where God is trying to take us.  

Are you being covered or contaminated family? The definition to cover is to put something on top of or in front of (something), especially in order to protect it; to be contaminated it means to be infected by something through contact or association. You know God has told us to be mindful of the company we keep in a few verses, but I’ll share these two: 

You know a lot of people think that the enemy can’t play with our minds, but that’s not true. Sometimes we feed into his lies so much we begin to actually believe them, but who we need to believe is God. In our sins and pain, God calls us by our name, but the enemy tries to identify us by our sins. God is aware of our sins and still loves us and doesn’t fill us with shame and guilt, but the enemy will.  

ForevaBlack family, sometimes we need to hit the pause button on our life and the people in it. Let me break that down for you; yes, I know we cannot pause our life, because life moves on, but we can take a break (PAUSE). Take a break, pour back into you and take some time away from the noise in your life. Taking a break and getting rest isn’t you being lazy, it’s you paying attention to the needs of you. I used to think focusing on me was so selfish, but these past two months that is what I’ve needed and have been doing. Pushing the pause button on always putting others first and deciding to focus on what I need.  

Happy Thursday, ForevaBlack family! It’s always so lovely to talk to you again. Today, I want us to talk about something real — being yourself.

It’s been a long two weeks my ForevaBlack family, so let’s get straight into it. You ever thought that everyone else around you are always the issue? Yeah, me too. But let me tell you something which is called the truth, sometimes you’re the issue. Yes, I said it… YOU. Sometimes the situations we find ourselves in aren’t someone else’s fault, it can be us as well. We choose chaos over peace and wonder why we’re not happy. We ignore the red flags, we ignore God’s still voice when He tells us something isn’t for us… sometimes we will try to bargain with God, to see if we can stay in a place that was never meant for us. We entertain what we prayed to God to be protected from.